College Hockey Player Comes Out on His Own Terms

Wednesday April 22, 2020

Athletes in different sports and at different levels - from pro sports to college teams - continue to pour out of the closet. The latest. A college hockey player who decided to brave coming out - and his teammates - with a moving letter.

As several other athletes have done, 25-year-old Marian University player and Saskatchewan native Brock Weston came out to a wide audience in a piece published at Outsports. Where some other athletes have authored op-eds at the site - which covers LGBTQ news relevant to athletics - Weston shared the letter he read aloud to his teammates last year.

Weston also shared some backstory about the letter and himself.

Weston wrote that he'd had a "meltdown" one night out of frustration at how some of his teammates had made insinuations about his sexuality, He decided the time had come to take action - by kicking the closet door right off its hinges.

That process began with Weston reading his letter aloud to his teammates:

Fellas,

This is one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. I don't know what to expect and I'm scared.

I'll get it out of the way early and tell you all ... I'm gay.

The letter, which Weston trimmed slightly for publication, went on as follows:

This has been my nightmare for years and to be honest this day has haunted me for months. To hear the things I hear about people like me from you guys and the hockey community has made this nearly impossible. I just hope you understand: I didn't choose this, and I hope you won't turn on me...

Growing up as hockey players we are exposed to the locker room talk from a very young age, hearing it from our buddy's crazy dad that says whatever the fuck comes into his head with no regard. We pick it up quickly because we are little sponges. Every guy we've ever played against has been a 'loser' or 'fucking fag' or 'a cocksucker.' You get the picture.

Weston closed out his heartfelt letter with several suggestions for his teammates could be more mindful - and more respectful. Among them:

Just because I am gay does not mean I am coming to the rink and looking around at everyone. This is my home, my family, and that's not how you look at family...

I get the slang and jokes and stuff won't stop right away, but please be a little more courteous.

You can ask me questions because — don't fucking lie to yourself — you've got questions.

Jokes. I'm OK with some. I'll let you know when I've had enough. Just don't make them with ill intent, it's not cool.

Weston suggested that his teammates watch the film "Love Simon," telling them that the comedy-drama, about a gay high schooler, would "hopefully open your eyes a little bit.

Weston ended his missive with this:

If we truly want to be a family, we have to trust each other. I am trusting you guys with what is the biggest secret of my life. I am trusting that it won't be fuel for you guys to be shitty people and hate on me.

Weston joins the ranks of other out and proud sports figures worldwide, including Swiss wrestler Curdin Orlik, Argentine basketball star Sebastián Vega, and University of North Carolina Wilmington basketball coach Matthew T. Lynch.