In New Interview, Nico Tortorella Says There's Nothing 'More Masculine than Bottoming'

Monday October 12, 2020

Nico Tortorella, the 32-year old actor, best-known as Sutton Foster's younger love interest on the hit series "Younger," called themselves sexually fluid in a 2016 interview with the New York Post, well before it became a cultural meme.

"I've never been in any sort of closet .?.?. I was never really in the house," they joked to the Post. "I think it's one thing to hide .?.?. and it's one thing to come out of the closet in a public statement .?.?. But I've always done me and never been shy .?.?. and have been vocal about it."

That's candid attitude is likely why they are trending today in the medias after an interview with the British magazine Attitude, when asked about anal sex, Pink News reports. In the interview "they said the issue resonates from people thinking that the body part is a 'dirty' or 'filthy' place."

"I think that is a deep-rooted issue with the body in general, whether you're male-bodied or female-bodied," they explained.

"But I think specifically for men to be put in this 'sub-position' is not masculine, when anyone who's bottomed ever knows you need to man the f*** up to get the job done.

"So I don't think there's anything more masculine than bottoming, let's be honest."

In addition to his "Younger" role and other acting gigs, Tortorella has written a book about his gender identity journey, "Space Between," and married non-binary and gender fluid activist and entrepreneur Bethany C. Meyers. While they married in 2018, they had met some 15 years earlier at college. "I mean, Bethany's my best friend and we have been through a ton of shit together," Tortorella says in an interview in the British LGBTQ magazine Attitude.

"We started this lifelong journey of a friendship first. I mean, Bethany's my best friend and we have been through a ton of shit together. It's crazy that we met the person that we married at such a young age. We talk about it all the time", Nico told Attitude.

They are also very open about their relationship's parameters. "I'm married, yes, but I love dating one person at a time. I have a partner in LA that I've had for a long time, but I'm not his only partner; he's not my only partner."

And they also addressed the most common misconception that people have about his marriage. ""That we're out here fucking all the time and we have all of these other partners. No, that's not the case."

Adding,"I think both of those words, queer and polyamorous, are heavily weighted, and they mean different things to different people. And what they mean to us works for us. And sometimes it doesn't."

Fans of "Younger" were likely disappointed to hear that the next season - it's seventh - will likely be its last. Tortorella will return to his role as Josh, the tattoo artist. It is doubtful, though, that the tattoo reality show, "How Far Is Tattoo Far?", the much-tatted actor hosted will be back any time soon, at least in its earlier format.

Tortorella is also a member of the ensemble cast of the new "The Walking Dead" spin-off, "The Walking Dead: World Beyond," which premiered last Sunday. (It airs at 10pm ET on AMC in the US.) "Following a younger group of survivors, "'The Walking Dead: World Beyond' introduces a brand new set of heroes who are markedly different from any we've met previously," Digital Spy writes in an interview with the actor. "These 'Endlings', as they call themselves, represent a new, younger generation who grew up in a world where the dead walk and nowhere is truly safe."

Tortorella plays Felix, a queer Endling who in this Sunday's episode confronts their homophobic father. "As someone who has worked really closely within the community and with people from all over the world within the community, this is a story that's very near and dear to my heart," they tell Digital Spy.

I've wanted to play a queer superhero for so long. And Felix is, in so many ways, a queer superhero, right? This isn't a show about superheroes, but human beings are superheroes. I believe that we all have special powers. And finally, I get to bring a character to life that is true to who he is, in an unapologetic way."

They also addressed the importance of the cultural evolution from gay to queer. "I think that playing a gay man on television has meant a very specific thing in the past. Thankfully, representation and visibility are changing. It's not perfect but it's getting better. And Felix is an example of that.

"He's not defined by his sexuality. It's just a piece of who he is. Yeah, it'll play a part as the series progresses, but that's not Felix's A-storyline by any means."

Queer super-heroes were on Tortorella's mind saying it's their dream to play one, adding that they've been in talks with Marvel and DC, adding "it is absolutely something that I am manifesting and creating as part of my future. Where exactly it's going to be is still unknown."

They added: "I'm most interested in continuing queer representation within the superhero space. It's a necessity. We all want it. We're all expecting it. There are plenty of characters we haven't seen portrayed yet, and I'm here for the job.

"Queer actors playing queer characters - there's never been a more important time, right? Let's do it. I'm ready."